I recently shared and read the following article
It really struck a chord with me. So many of us are walking around not realizing how sick we may really be. I was one of those people. I chalked up all my health issues to “getting older”. Sleep Apnea caused by obesity? No way, not me. I snored since I was a kid. It just got worse as I aged. Sore hips, knees and joints? Doesn’t everyone get Arthritis when they age? Debilitating fatigue, well, didn’t all people sleep more as they age and talk about having no energy? Depression? Nah, it was because I was stressed and had lots going on. High Blood Sugar? Again, it was stress and everyone seemed to get this as they aged. None of these things had anything to do with my obesity. How wrong I was. We now know that obesity is the underlying factor in so many different diseases yet when we go to the doctor, we don’t get help for being obese, we get criticized and then we are given medication to take care of our “symptoms” such as high blood pressure, diabetes, arthritis.
I have also come to realize, while coaching people to their weight loss goals, that knowing everything they need to know about their health, their metabolic process and what it takes to take the weight off and keep it off, is not enough. It is not even enough to have had bariatric surgery, despite claims to the contrary. It comes down to not being able to fill what is missing in our lives. When our lives are happy, full and complete, we no longer need to eat to fill a void. We no longer desire things that make us feel terrible. We no longer want to eat until we feel painfully “stuffed”. When we love ourselves and enjoy our lives, we take good care of ourselves. When that void is yawning though, it calls for comfort, and we have used food to comfort ourselves since we have been babes at our mothers breast, so to speak.
So how do we find what’s missing? What is it that is missing, the presence of which would make a profound difference in the way we interact with food and with ourselves? In order to get to where we are no longer filling an empty void, we have to discover what lights us up and then go after it like there is nothing else that matters, because nothing else does matter. What we are doing and who we are being around what we are doing, determines what we have. For example. If we are dieting, and complaining and moaning about our deprivation, we will have weight loss with set backs and finally, the weight will return. If we are eating healthy and being excited and loving about embracing a new lifestyle, we will have health and weight maintenance. However, knowing this makes no difference. It is still easier said than done.
I was lucky and am discovering what is and was missing in my life. What was missing for me was self love. I spent many years feeling lonely and unloved and I filled that emptiness with food. I was not enough, so I sat alone, watching TV and eating. I still struggle occasionally with self confidence and worthiness. That nagging little voice will always be there. The difference now, is I tell it to shut up and then I walk away from it. In time, it gets quieter and less frequent. It may always be there but I get to choose whether or not I listen to it and let it run my life.
Some of us need to change our relationship with food in such a way that we cannot do it alone. We need to get professional help. This is not failure, this is not weakness. This is triumph to take whatever steps we need to succeed at what our goals are. The only failure we have is a failure to take any type of action. If one action doesn’t work, then find another. The important thing is to keep moving.
The following link has some good information about emotional eating. The information is good and if it sets you on the path to getting help, then it will be worth the read.
I welcome any comments you may have or message me if I can help in any way, Sometimes by sharing our journeys, we can support and help each other. It meant a lot to me to know I was not alone and that my way of coping was something others had done.